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  1. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    For ages man built house with hsi efforts, and paid all the bills of women, when i said its time for women to share same, immedietly feminists counter it saying " IT SHOULD BE SHARED" thats shows double standred and twist of their boneless tongue.

    You gave money to your husband....?

    Girls parents are not ready to get married their daughter to poor man, coz they love their daughter, and she will depressed. that means they marry to money not with man. haha. what a logic. anfter getting married to wealthy man he will depressed for sure.

    Study shows Todays most of the marriages are broken because of girls parents interference, and Feminists movement. and in india specialy because biased laws [ read this http://supari.org/parental-intrusion/ ( Delhi high court : Parental intrusion ruining couples marital life ) ]

    yes i born out of think Air, coz i expose your true lies. and i do not admit your sob stories....

    ...........angoor katta.... hope you heard this story.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  2. humanbeing2
    Member

    marriage means union of two person to form one family unit and birth of child completes it. why do you think your money or her money. this attitude itself will trigger the conflict. when you say better half means she is your equal partner. if you contribute in terms of money for buying a house because u r working and she is not then she is managing your house and may be contributing in terms of labour that you cannot see . because it is not valued in terms of money. but if she is working e then she is also saving part of your income by not asking for her expenses. and if she is saving (in bank account)then also it is will go for family infcome( for the child expenses or future expenses of the house). what if woman who has been working stops working as her family needs her full time attention. is it not that her career and income is curtailed.

    Dsouza if you have a mental block you cannot see beyond certain things and you remain in your own world.. there are many women who also contribute to homeloans by being a co-applicant now a days to buy a house property as you get higher loan eligibility. it is how your treat your wife as a slave or servent OR EQUAL PARTNER.it is all attitude. if my husband gives gifts to my sister then I too feel I should give some thing to his sister. but can i give if i am not working? then I have to take money from my husband and give. what if my husband does not give money. relations are to build and nortured.

    are you cooperative and broad minded??

    I will definately buy a house someday for sure as i do not have permanent accomodation. why not.? whether me or my husband it is finally going to go the child? r u going to take anything with u when u die?

    In general why man does not want to marry a ugly woman/handicapped??? or a woman who cannot give birth to a child?? or prefer not to marry a widow? or a prostitute??. but there are very few exceptions where courageous man have come forward to marry such woman. which cannot be denied.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  3. humanbeing2
    Member

    dsouza, are u not concerned about your child health, education & his future? suppose if you had girl child from your second marriage? and how do you plan to get her married when she grows up? what will be your preference while searching groom for her. what if she has marital discord after marriage? how will you try to resolve???

    After being a parents yourself how can you just abuse girls parents for your concious decision of marriage. whether it love or arranged is it not your decision also.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  4. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    why this theological words comes now saying "marriage means union of two person..."
    thats what i asked How many women you find who contribute and build house their own...
    i can show you 99% men do.
    dont teach me "equal partner" slave and servent" these words comes when man question women responsibility.
    if money should not be issue or argue over it then see what gulati wrote " she gave money to husband she says"
    in india, situation is like, husband has to pay when they are togather, and he has to pay even she run away then no women is thinking about equality/marriage/union bla bla as you say WHY ?

    Never compare a Prostitute to todays modren women or legal terrorists, they are far far better than you feminists who suck mens/husband blood. now question is who marry whom, but you are trying to twist the logic and do not have answer to what i asked.

    who says man dont marry ugly women. i married twice, when there were many beautiful out there. but i know beauty is skin deep.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  5. humanbeing2
    Member

    "why this theological words comes now saying "marriage means union of two person..."
    -it is universally accepted words to define for marriage when many people including man like u do not understand.

    "thats what i asked How many women you find who contribute and build house their own...
    i can show you 99% men do."

    - so do you have statistical data to show how many woman continue to work after having childrens & how many continue to work and also manage house and contribute to family income.

    "dont teach me "equal partner" slave and servent" these words comes when man question women responsibility. if money should not be issue or argue over it then see what gulati wrote " she gave money to husband she says" in india, situation is like, husband has to pay when they are togather, and he has to pay even she run away then no women is thinking about equality/marriage/union bla bla as you say WHY ?"

    -why do you want to pinpoint/question her responsibility? r u acknowledging your responsbility towards her? do you treat her equally with respect and love in true sense.

    -gulati replied to your question- she said she has contributed money and hence she is one such eg.- so what is wrong. it is a answer to your question. but her main issue is that her husband is not showing any responsbility to towa rds their marriage. money is offcourse one aspect. and she is not working and they have a child which is in her custody.

    "who says man dont marry ugly women. i married twice, when there were many beautiful out there.
    but i know beauty is skin deep."

    - is your present wife not woman of modern times?you illtreat her she is will also file cases?
    r u yourself a handsome person?does everyone thinks the same way you think. can you see skin deep beauty when you go to select girl for marriage?

    "Never compare a Prostitute to todays modren women or legal terrorists, they are far far better than you feminists who suck mens/husband blood. now question is who marry whom, but you are trying to twist the logic and do not have answer to what i asked"

    --modren woman knows her legal rights. fight for injustice against them.
    given a choice would you prefer to marry a physically/mentally challenged woman or under previlaged woman.

    you have not replied to my question either: if you had a daugher??

    Posted 6 years ago #
  6. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    My wife is A modern women, but she has head over her shoulder, she knows her responsibilities and she read all what i write here. and she is not LEGAL TERRORIST. And i treat her same.
    she was in rented house and now she stays in 50L worth house.
    thats mutual
    give and you will get it.
    try to rob and demand your rights, you will kicked out.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  7. hiarungupta
    Member

    hi all,
    I read all eight pages, all I can say is

    1. everybody wants stability in his/her life. Everybody wants to get settled and be happy.

    2. It's very easy to say all good things, and might be diffcult to act good.

    Now coming to the point. Ask yourself
    1. Am I happy?
    2. What else I want to be happy?
    3. When I'll be happy?

    There are laws which empowers women for injustice (few women misuse it also).
    ms gulati: when u r sure that ur husband is not worth and he's busy with someone else. Think what may make you happy in longer term and go for that. If fighting 125 makes you happy, go for it. When ur husband is not with you, he's not ur husband and you can never survive on somebody else's income. You should look for some other options. Every father takes care of his child, he'll take care if the child is with him or he's also involved in the developement of child. But if you want only money for this purpose, there are chances, he'll never give. There are laws but it doesn't mean, it should be used always.

    Dr dsouza is a smart man, he's settled in life and then may be fighting cases.

    Mr blue, don't repeat the mistake, she'll never make u happy. You can talk to me if u want.

    Humanbeing2 : what's ur status and what course of action u r taking?

    Life is great if ur partner is with you. With ur partner, you may enjoy facing challenges of life. Fighting cases with your partner is the worst thing, as I feel. fight brutally against women 498A women. Almost all cases are false.
    Would like to know more about humanbeing? Why she's hanging on here?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  8. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    For me, child is Girl or boy i will not deny them from any of thier rights, i will treat boh of them equal, may be raise girl more carefully. if im lucky to have a child, as in my whole family none bore girls.

    and when they marry we will not find their partner, let them find, coz its their life, and when they are old enough to marry they should old enough to judge bad or better.

    as Rekha says "modren woman knows her legal rights. fight for injustice against them" now you know why Divorce rate in India raised from 4% to 30% in last 10 years. coz they want reap where they dont sow.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  9. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    dhed shaaNi, hope puneri will understand this marathi word

    Posted 6 years ago #
  10. pb387t
    Member

    Hi

    If you are educated and working while living with your husband

    1. Why do you claim maintenance saying that you are not working from your husband when you leave him?
    2. Why do you file case against the whole family when u r not staying in combined family? why not only your husband?

    I agree to point is Woman is important in this world but so is man. If u think man is given birth by woman and not get into this world out of thin air, but can woman give birth without man...

    It is important that two should live together. If due to some circumstances, they decide to go their own ways, why do put all these cases and try to settle them with money. If money is important factor while seperation there is no requirement for woman being educated. Two families can have their family members (Panchayat) sit together, settle between them selves and go their own way. Atleast in that case none of families are hurt to extent as it is when cases are filed and both have to go to court.

    In my case, I fought more then half a dozen cases for more then 5 years. My wife was working when she was staying with me. But she left her job and filed these cases. She joined MNC again and started working but in court she kept on saying she is not working. she claimed equal amount of salary which is earning in MNC.

    I had earlier salary account which was shared with her moment we got together but she never got her salary account shared with me. It is shared even today even though we are legally divorced now. She used that account details in court to prove my salary.

    What do you think she has intention except for money ? what values she owns or provided by her Parents? At this time asking for money filing maintenance cases, they are poor woman. All values and creditability of modern and educated woman gets drained.

    When girls family is approached or they themselves think of getting it settled outside the court if cases specially divorce case filed by her is hanging, why do they ask for handsome amount of money?? Is it not greedyness??
    Are they asking for extra money as interest or charges of night she spent with me??

    If she does not want to continue the relationship why to make tamasha in whole world?? why not to sit and get settled.

    With growing cases with this so called modern girl, do u ever think, we are leading to single Parenting? If you want to see the future of it, look towards the west.

    If you are educated why don't woman work and maintain themselves after seperating instead of asking for monthly maintenance? why do u need money from us?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  11. Anonymous

    Mr hiarungupta..to achieve stability in life you need money...its true my husband is not mine now...but at one time he was ...my husband has used me so many times...demanded money, gifts from me and parents everytime..I did not want to concieve initially...becoz i was afraid of his behavior but he did not listen me..and forcibly wants me to have a baby boy...And now i have a girl child...if i'll give him the custoay of my child he would give her child to her mistress who might make her a servant..why should i give him the custody..
    yes i am very very happy to file the maintenance case on him ...i don't mind it becoz i haven't done anything wrong and i want to seek justice which is my rights i haven't yet file any other case viz;(498,dv act or dowry) which was suppose to be done...i don't mind if the case would run for several years or might i lose my time/money...the so called my husband should be severly punished as he has deserted his daughter...
    If my husband did not want to stay with me..and he's interested in his mistress than atleast he should provide with financially stability to his child...

    Dr dsouza now you say...you would not deny any rights for their own children.whether bad or good...why.. becoz they are your children?...what about those children who could not find their partner in their life... than
    they need their parents..who would find the same good spouse....nobody know what would happen next
    Have you seen any parents who has destroy their daughter's life aftre marriage ...
    if you say yes...than i would also say..husband's parents are also very much involved in breaking the relationship of marriage...(for example in my case)My in laws actually needed the servant...which i could not prove myself and they thrown me out with the child...still you would have mercy on men?
    Why its a worst thing to fight case with your partner if some injustice is there..If something is wrong done by him which is injustice to his wife...(to aap uski aarti to nahi utarenge)

    Posted 6 years ago #
  12. humanbeing2
    Member

    Hi Mr. Arun,

    i may be blocked if i answer your question in this thread.

    Life is not great if u have a partner still with you who is unfaithfull, not trustworthy and have manupulative tendencies. .. is it not better not to have such companion at all?

    well, in my case I have not filed the cases first he did it and I responded to his actions after several warning & councelling.. . I am working and also claiming maintenance for the child which he is giving me religiously at the moment. I am able to save money for future and take care of our child.

    I am here to help to save family from distruction and support women who really are in distress and need help who come here for advice like Rekha & gulati. ...and offcourse i am against misuse of law.

    Posted 6 years ago #

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