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  1. rohand
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    Thank you Mr rohand for your advice...i have already proved it in the court about my problem...it was not the difficult situation...------------------------------------------------ Unfortunately, the laws being heavily in favour of women, the burden of proof is on men and when they fail to prove their own innocence, they are automatically termed guilty. Your husband has termed your case false and he doesn't want you back. What do you have to say for that? Don't tell me that you have proved in courts because the laws, courts, rules, police, judges, media are all in favour of women. When everything is women-centric and favouring, the man is bound to get falsely implicated.

    Yes you r right women are the initiaters...my mil,sil were the initiaters to this problem..they supported my husband...----------------------------------------------- When you accept that women are the initiators, why are there laws like 497 which treat women as abla naris?

    The judge has already passed the interim orders ...Now my husband can't escape from this...He has done wrong thing...he should be punished...punishment is very simple..to pay maintenance for his daughter ...i did not ask for myself.....---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- judges and courts always favour women. Their interim orders and whatever always favour women. No proof is required and does not matter whether the woman is working and earning high salaries. There was a case I know where the wife was earning 80k a month. Husband was earning 15 k and the court passed an order for him to maintain his wife. In that case, the couple did not even have a kid. Is this fair? Is this gender equality? In fact, the wife has to pay alimony and maintain her husband!!!

    Every day 30 to 40 Delhi Husbands are loosing their Home in protection of Women Domestic Violence Act, 2006.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  2. rohand
    Member

    A Man before marriage is - Superman.

    Because he believes in impressing the women around him to get his sexual needs met. A lot of male feminist lapdogs fall in this age group. 15-30 years.

    After Marriage - Gentleman.

    The wife makes him her slave - what women call "gentleman".

    5years later -Watchman.

    The wife treats him like a watchman - a dog.

    10 Years later - Apne Hi Jaal Mein fasaa hua Spiderman.

    I agree that most men complicate their own lives by marrying women. Its better to remain single. Afterall, marriage is a life-threat to men!!!!!!!!!

    that’s why its better to be a Hanuman.

    Better to remain a bachelor and not sign one's own death warrant.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  3. humanbeing2
    Member

    will you refuse to also accept/believe that there domestic voilence in most of the family in every section of society...and woman are verybally and physically abused? assume if there is a drastic raise of domestic voilence and woman are physically assualted. what should be preventive/corrective action? what should Indian Govt. do?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  4. humanbeing2
    Member

    so what accordingly to you is marriage?then why does every individual desires for marriage? why does the man again remarries?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  5. rohand
    Member

    is she not denied this basic need?? will he give her that basic need which binds the marriage.----------------------------------------

    From the husband's point of view, the allegations of the wife are all untrue. It may be a totally different case. I don't believe that the wife was sex-starved.

    if you live in society. you have a set norm,ethical and unethical. pros** offer in exchange of money. is it right to take from anyone who is offering you sex. even from bhabhi/sister/mother/child or a minor child of someone. so you cannot say no. man also use force to get it but it is different thing that you refuse to believe though it is common? ----------------------------------------------------

    You mean to say that the wife who offers sex to the husband is entitled to alimony and maintenance just because she is doing it?

    so your refuse to believe news story that their is no rape of girl by her own father.in what way woman is a intiator? --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    I don't refuse to believe but many stories are false too. Media is unscrupulous. Period. Regarding initiating, I was referring to any form of initiating - not just with regard to an extra-marital affairs. I personally know many women who have initiated an extra-marital affair. Section 497 needs to be changed in tune with the changed times we live in. Very often, women initiate extra-marital sex. 497 IPC treats women as abla naris.

    if you encourage pros*** our future childrens will not have family ( father & mother)-------------------------------------------------

    When you make family and marriage unfriendly by initiating anti-male laws, the better option for the man is to go for sex outside the ambit of marriage. Feminism is an anti-male, anti-family and anti-marriage ideology. Moreover, more and more men are getting caught in these anti-male laws because of various reasons, chiefly, because they are sexual slaves. This sexual slavery can only be altered by having a free sex society.

    gulati, you have asked for child support and your husband does not want child custody. which you will get it. there cannot be reconciliation even if you have a child. broken glasses cannot join. other basic need you can get even if you are unmarried/divorced. You will be deprived of sex that even otherwise you were not getting.

    ------------------------------- This is a one-sided view. The husband has a different story to tell.

    To teach such man a good lesson is to intiate a legal action which are there to protect you. he will have to anyway spend the same amount(child support) to fight the cases to defend himself. it is no use of discussing/complaining here. law should not be misused but used when it is required to be used.----------------------------------------------------------
    So you are instigating Gulati to misuse the law to teach her husband "a lesson". You want her to file all kinds of false cases so that her husband will enrich some lawyers and come for an out of court settlement and make Gulati a rich extortionist. Wow. This goes to show the mentality of today's women. I think the husband should take legal action against you for this.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  6. rohand
    Member

    will you refuse to also accept/believe that there domestic voilence in most of the family in every section of society...and woman are verybally and physically abused? assume if there is a drastic raise of domestic voilence and woman are physically assualted. what should be preventive/corrective action? what should Indian Govt. do?

    There is a complete misconception that domestic violence is man to woman. In reality, it is both ways. But laws across the world treat man as the perpetrator and woman as the victim. Society treats women as the weaker sex. This is the root of the problem. Your comment also shows this bias. Men are very often bigger victims of domestic violence such as nagging, financial violence, sexual etc.

    Laws are needed to counter the violence by women too.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  7. rohand
    Member

    if 1 woman(bhabhi) is cause of your misery. then 2 man (your husband and brother inlaw) r also cause of your misery. forget about the cause think about the effect to your family( you, your child and your husband).you and your husband are adult and can take care of themselves. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    The husband has a different story to tell altogether.

    child need to be cared by mother in the intial stages of growth. you cannot defy nature. it would be cruel to give away the child to father if you can better take care of the child. if you have taken good care of the child when it was inside you and you can also take care outside too.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    Why is it cruel to take away the child and give it to the father? How is it against nature? Moreover, what happened to the concept of equality? Your concept of equality seems to be an equality of convenience rather than genuine equality. Are fathers lesser parents or incapable of parenting? This is rubbish and anti-equality.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  8. humanbeing2
    Member

    To teach such man a good lesson is to intiate a legal action which are there to protect you. he will have to anyway spend the same amount(child support) to fight the cases to defend himself. it is no use of discussing/complaining here. law should not be misused but used when it is required to be used.----------------------------------------------------------
    So you are instigating Gulati to misuse the law to teach her husband "a lesson". You want her to file all kinds of false cases so that her husband will enrich some lawyers and come for an out of court settlement and make Gulati a rich extortionist. Wow. This goes to show the mentality of today's women. I think the husband should take legal action against you for this.
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    whether you believe it or not is your personal opinion. I believe her as i have myself experienced the same. I have advised her clearly NOT TO MISUSE LAW. BE HONEST & FILE TRUE CASES (WITH PROOF) & SHE SHOULD DEFINATELY USE LAWS TO PROTECT HER RIGHTS and wait for whatever judgement happens and abide by it. If out of court settlement happen it is still better she can use it to support life of their child and secure her and her childs future. he can very well initiate legal action i will defend myself as always.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  9. rohand
    Member

    and wait for whatever judgement happens and abide by it. If out of court settlement happen it is still better she can use it to support life of their child and secure her and her childs future. he can very well initiate legal action i will defend myself as always-----------------------------------------------------

    The laws are filed mainly for an out-of-court settlement which is another name for extortion. You have only mentioned about the settlement but never ever spoken about the custody of the child. it means that men should be atm machines to the women who get child custody rights and easy money.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  10. humanbeing2
    Member

    in this case, there is no question of child custody. it is child support which is being denied.
    out of court settlement does not always happens? but even then it is always initiated by husband to get away from the case.. divorce case is filed by her husband u/s13(a). if he does not come out and fight he cannot get divorce and if he comes out he has to pay maintenance otherwise go to jail. how many days he will escape from law. I hope gulati has already initiated search to find him with passport no. Pan no. etc. he is also making his life & life of his relatives (including his mistress/bhabhi) insecure

    if he is honest and true let him fight the cases.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  11. Anonymous

    Thank you so much human being for your support...yes very much true i haven't misuse the law..its my daughters right to get maintenance from her father....from the beginning i was mentally tortured from my InLaws family ..i could have File DV or 498 a case...but i did not...

    Even my in laws members and husband are not interested to take custody of their children...My husband has files divorce case from another side to get one sided divorce...he did not even think of his daughters future...I don't want to divorce him...even if i could not get maintenance from him...i would wait for him to turn towards his daughter and leave his mistress...Even i would say he should meet his daughter atleast once a week .i don't know dr dsouza and rohand are thinkiong that i am greedy...yes in some paras i have used some filthy language i am sorry if it hurts the sentiments of someone...but its not like that i just want to seek justice...many women might implicate their husband in false case...that does not mean everywomen are of same...might mr rohand think my problem is like a story....but these are facts..i would say again...
    who i am to teach the lesson to my husband. by legal way...its only GOD..who can see what is right waht is wrong.....
    Cheers to human being...

    Posted 6 years ago #
  12. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    It’s not Story; whatever men says is Story to women. And they think they are telling truth and world should believe in them.
    Coz we all gone through similar situation;
    My Ex accused me having sex with my every neighbor and all women in my office and even i was not having video player she told that i used to bring blue videos and asking her to do as in blue Films. And everyone from her family believed in her words. Coz i was popular with neighbor’s kids, as i was teaching them sports, early morning jogging, cycling, trekking, and mountaineering. Good hobbies like stamp/coin/note collecting than roaming around. And their mothers were happy felt safe when their kids are with me. And even i challenged these ladies in cooking and we used to exchange sweets and dishes i made of my native.
    Result my Ex blamed me may be some of those kids are mine. That’s women mentality.

    Posted 6 years ago #

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