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  • Started 6 years ago by myproblem
  • Latest reply from Dr.Dsouza
  1. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    WCD/NCW do not count MAA/BAHEN as aurath. do you know that ?
    ask NCW

    Posted 6 years ago #
  2. rekha_s
    Member

    no....in what ways??

    you mean to say the child is given to mother only because she is breastfeeding.. and so she should continue to breastfeed for 5 years??? can you take the child from the womb?? just because you want physical custody?
    Have you ever thought of the mother's emotions and pain during pregnancy and child birth.
    Iam really surprised if your wife is agreeing to your thinking. mother and father has there own roles to play for child development and growth in different stages of his life. if you think you can do what woman can do in every way. exchange the reproductive organs and give birth to the child. you will experiance yourself.

    your child is needs your support now.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  3. rekha_s
    Member

    Dr. Dsouza,

    it is very sad that your child did not get mothers and fathers both affection. atleast you should have communicated to him your feeling. you could have been near to him eventhough physically miles away. now when he needs a father. you want to create hatred towards mother and take his love. this does not happen practically when you are married and staying away without any communication. Your child will start hating you and will never come to you no matter how much money you spend on him..

    your love for him is true but unless you do not express he will not understand.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  4. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    I asked visitation and custody on 2003 and granted this year by HC;
    so i was kept away by force; and not away from child by my wish. Even i was having visitation order and went to their home, but they denied to allow me to meet him. now they face content of court.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  5. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    NCW / WCD should look after women problems right ? as they even fight for prostitutes, legal terrorists but when a mother of 498A case victim approch them they deny any help. as per them she is not a women to ask their help.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  6. rekha_s
    Member

    there should be some reason for delay... may be your approach was wrong.. if they do not obey to the court order they will face the consequence.

    you are here for what purpose??. r u not fighting for 498a victims similarly NCW/WCD fights for womens welfare and their rights. if woman is also part in crime she will also face the same consequences. how will you come to know 498a person is really (victim) guilty or not... investigation will only reveal ..allegations need to be proved. guilty should be punished for prevention of crime and maintainence of law and order.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  7. sk_jha95
    Member

    Madam u have correctly stated that it is not know whether a person is really guilty or not and only investigation will reveal that. Then why treat a person or old lady ( or pregnant ladies) guilty without investigation. They have spent days in jail without investigation, only on the basis of complaint. If NCW think only young lady need their protection not older ones?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  8. rekha_s
    Member

    but without investigation/panchnama does the police arrest anyone?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  9. dearverma
    Member

    Again, in which country are you living. do you not know that 498A is non-bailable. why do people apply for AB. so u want to know does police arrest anyone without investigation.
    u know abt tihar jail. poor old ladies with no money for AB. its filled with such women.

    u want to know a real example. my father got AB because he was not staying with us (on long tour). my mother didnt get AB because in complaint it was mentioned that she tried to burn my wife (mind u no investigation or proof still AB rejected). me being husband and by default a cruel man also didnt get.
    after months of trying and being underground we decided enough and went back home. on day one we both mom and son were arrested and presented in court. fortunately judge gave my mom regular bail probably seeing my mom's health and i spent 7 nights in judicial custody.

    yes guilty should be punished and also false cases and pergury should be dealt with an equal iron hand.

    "if woman is also part in crime she will also face the same consequences" u r such an illogical person. i am wondering how u managed to get a job. women are part of crime for filing false cases and even after they are proved false NCM doesnt listen to mothers and sisters. we have live examples.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  10. dearverma
    Member

    we have cases on girls direction police arrest people on friday night and are presented on monday morning. (they cannot keep people in custody for more than 24 hrs). so by default our mom are kept in that filthy place for 2 days even if judge gives them regular bail.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  11. sk_jha95
    Member

    dearverma
    u ve correctly stated the reality of 498A cases. If one is influential then he can avoid arrest for some time but in most of the cases arrest is made and that too on Fridays so that onehas to stay in custody for more than 2 days. My wife doesn't stay with me, demanded 40Lakhs for separation, when i refused she filed several cases on me. She has sent me sms that if I dont agree to pay her demanded money my old mother will be sent to jail and I will lose my job, as I work in Govt. sector. Went to Thana with sms to file Information petition. Thana I/c refused as according to him" They cannot take complaint against ladies (wife)".
    This is reality of our life. Lady does not want to live to husbands but demands huge amount in alimony, refusal leads to 498A. I am ready to pay reasonable amount but Rs.40Lakh is beyond my capabilities.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  12. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    Jha;
    if she left you her own, why r u ready to pay reasonable amount of money ?
    they know you are ready to pay, so why not demand more....
    its like a say.
    if you bend, they will bang you more.

    Posted 6 years ago #

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