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  • Started 6 years ago by myproblem
  • Latest reply from Dr.Dsouza
  1. rekha_s
    Member

    When you do not want your husband, why are you begging for his money ?

    -what if he also does not want me?what will you call the money given to that girl or his parents/siblings.

    498a will not justify your move, as you misused it.
    -In what ways?

    you should have filled related case for what he has done. and asked for Divorce instead blackmailing like this.
    498a is definately not filed for cheating. you or wrong he wanted divorce after I cought him red handed. I have not asked for my legal right though I am eligible. it is for the son (child support)and if he is so much concerned should he not? had I worked continuesly and not married to him I would have bought a house of my own?

    Why dont you thought about Child when you filled 498a+ cases ?
    why this question only for him.
    -why not this question to him???. I thought of child should have both father and mother and trying to solve the problem through councellor. & if I want I cud have filed all cases(CR125 and DV) long back. but he took the first stand by abducting and filing for divorce / child custody. he himself wanted to get into problems and did not think about the child.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  2. rekha_s
    Member

    u r so lucky rekha ji. u catch ur husband red handed, u file 498a. we catch our wife red handed, we get 498a.
    498a was not filed for this reason.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  3. rekha_s
    Member

    the name rekha means line....limit. but not in this forum. here we see a haggard beggar going by the same name. posting childishly like a know-all.

    what if my real name is sadhbhavan or shanti or namrata or devi. will that make any difference.

    so his son is begger if he want his father to buy something for him to play? what if he does not want the child custody for some reason but truely loves the child but child and mother need monetary support for place to live.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  4. rekha_s
    Member

    One simple question, once the cases are settled would you like to marry again? I can give you the list of some general questions which the men asks usualy.

    Mr. Arun,

    Isn't is better to live without marrying than marrying but having no family life?? and living in past.
    Even if I find someone willing to marry I cannot give justice to that relation when our son needs me and with me. I am not looking for happiness.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  5. rekha_s
    Member

    it is my personal choice but that does not mean that divorced women should not remarry

    Posted 6 years ago #
  6. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    Rekha;
    Do not blame Everything on your husband.
    it take 2 persons to run family/marriage smoothly. like a cart.
    You cannt clap with one hand. so there should be some fault of you. Why do you think he doesnt want you....?.

    Whatever your problem or his, the case you filled solved your problem with him ? than black mailing him.
    498A will creat revenge attitude not only your husband but his whole family.
    498A is not answer for any of women problems than fast track to divorce.
    if you really cared for child then you should have talked with him along with elders and reached amicable solution and mutual divorce.when you found out he finished with you.
    in current situation of india, men knows how long it take to get divorce and solve other legal issues

    what is the use getting divorce after 10 years and maitenance after fighting long legal battle.
    can you bring back those lost years...?
    Your age...?

    thats why someone rightly said.
    AURATH KA AKKAL GUTNEKA NICHE

    Posted 6 years ago #
  7. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    if women take child with her that ok.
    if Father take.... that abduction. ?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  8. rekha_s
    Member

    Do not blame Everything on your husband.
    it take 2 persons to run family/marriage smoothly. like a cart.
    You cannt clap with one hand. so there should be some fault of you. Why do you think he doesnt want you....?.

    - very true it takes 2 willing person ... and how well one can balance...

    Whatever your problem or his, the case you filled solved your problem with him ? than black mailing him.
    498A will creat revenge attitude not only your husband but his whole family.
    498A is not answer for any of women problems than fast track to divorce.

    -- it was not with the intension of solving. prboblems and challanges are either ways.
    - but yes it has given me a protection from further atrocities when you are sure it is a divorce. it has given me a platform for settlement. and yes amicable settlement for both.

    if you really cared for child then you should have talked with him along with elders and reached amicable solution and mutual divorce.when you found out he finished with you.

    -I did... but amicable solution did not happen. i don't consider it as finished when we have common strings attached(child). it can be mistakes or lust...

    in current situation of india, men knows how long it take to get divorce and solve other legal issues

    - fast track divorce is for those who wants to remarry. and do not want do and don'ts of marriage.

    what is the use getting divorce after 10 years and maitenance after fighting long legal battle.
    can you bring back those lost years...?
    Your age...?

    - divorce yes you may have to wait . but you can claim intirim maitenance for survival .. it is lost years for both. with or without divorce if it is failed marriage(years of misery).

    thats why someone rightly said.
    AURATH KA AKKAL GUTNEKA NICHE

    - aurath ke bhagair bhi tho admi nahi reh sakta- maa/bhahen/biwi/beti
    whether it is your bitter half or better half you agree that she is your half.:-)

    Posted 6 years ago #
  9. rekha_s
    Member

    if women take child with her that ok.
    if Father take.... that abduction. ?

    - what is right as per law of land -is right

    Posted 6 years ago #
  10. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    it is you say Abduction; law is not saying. all Feminists think so.
    Law of the land says "with best interest of the child"
    and there are verdicts aginst women who abducted children too. that too from USA.
    dont think it will favor you always, changes are just started, and now judiciary also know it becuase of misuse of law and women crocodile tears.
    Law will not always dance as women says/think.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  11. rekha_s
    Member

    Law of the land says "with best interest of the child"
    with only few exception with father but in majority of cases "best interest of the child who is less than 5 year is in custody of mother.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  12. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    thinking women breast feed their child for 5 years.
    soon law will know todays women dont even breastfeed for 5 months then they automatically change whatever so far women got in the best interest of child will change.
    soon we will fight for child rights to breastfed child for 5 years. else give child to us.

    Posted 6 years ago #

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