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  • Started 6 years ago by myproblem
  • Latest reply from Dr.Dsouza
  1. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    he deserted you or you left his house sitting cruelty.
    in your previous post you said he was " wrong/unethical" thats not cruelty or leads to 498A.
    now tell me what you mean by " wrong/unethical"
    let readers decide was that cuelty or support your claim of 498A.

    many women leave husband home including my ex left home saying i was coming home drunk and beating her. indian law and court/judges belive in such words and their sob stories. even win 498A case.

    498a or warnings will not solve marital problems, indian women have easy option to way out with 498A, but 498A never solve their actual problem. same want to her husband to bend to her demands, and still dreaming he will mend and repent.
    STOP dreaming rekha, now we know why u used 498A, by force or with warning you cannt change a man or world. OK.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  2. sgrover1973
    Member

    Some quick questions, Rekha Ji!

    Were you able to catch your husband red handed? If yes, why was he doing this. Was the response from your side was good on his physical needs. May be he might have found you less interested.

    Did you tried to tell the truth to his parents? You knew that his parents were otherwise good to you, there was no reason involving them in 498A problem. You yourself said that they were ignorant.

    My wife herself liked to sleep and never respected my feelings as soon as I got married. I had controlled and never enjoyed. Even then, I had never ever flirted any other girl after marriage, but she continued to nag me for having a relationshi and later she herself found with some sms and maintaining another sim card without my knowledge later on, when enquired about the sms from her paramour.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  3. ykgiroh
    Member

    in case your husband was cruel, you could have walked out of the marriage with dignity. You could not do so because you were not financially independent i believe. In case you are not you could have asked for monthly maintenance and could have worked for yourself and your child.
    Rekha ji, if you ask for exorbitant amounts as compensation and say that he is unwilling to do so then where is your integrity.. can u not support your child and yourself or is it that you want to enjoy life on your husband's money. please have some self respect and work hard and prosper. there is nothing left in all such case baazi... you are not going to get anything. And remember one thing, Good or Bad you do for others... will ultimately come back to you. May be your husband was not good enough but since you are not bad you should not resort to such **** acts.
    If someone doesn't treat you nicely... make yourself worthy of being treated nicely... if he is bad.. you should leave bad things behind you and move ahead for better things... Be good and God will be good to you...
    My advice to you is " Do not get enslaved by your anger, i know you cannot think beyond revenge"

    If your husband was bad... ask for a settlement and move ahead in life... you are spoiling ur life... i can see it from the anger coming out of you.... You are having an option of getting out of this ****.. and you are not leaving it... Look at poor fellows who don't have the option of getting out of this ****... for no mistake of theirs and are treated badly... i am saying all this as a friend... please do not take me otherwise...

    Posted 6 years ago #
  4. rekha_s
    Member

    in case your husband was cruel, you could have walked out of the marriage with dignity. You could not do so because you were not financially independent i believe. In case you are not you could have asked for monthly maintenance and could have worked for yourself and your child.

    I would have walked out of marriage if we did not have a child. I had taken up a job immediately so there was no question of me not being financially independent. child is OUR child. we both are responsible.

    there will be reason for every action. even theif will say he did not have money so he stole. is it right? crime is a crime whatever be the reason. knowingly if you commit the crime is more grave.

    how many of us will accept our mistakes?

    who will decide on settlement. both or alone

    Will the anger do any better to the child? child is the common factor of this marriage? will the spouses be happy if the child is not happy and not getting what he deserves? will they happy even after remarrying without changing negitive attitude.

    what about the young widows with the childrens. do they all remarry- did they spoil their life or is it the destiny. they will have to move on in life with the responsibility of childrens.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  5. rekha_s
    Member

    Some quick questions, Rekha Ji!

    Were you able to catch your husband red handed? If yes, why was he doing this. Was the response from your side was good on his physical needs. May be he might have found you less interested.

    - Yes I cought him. what if he say if someone is giving him why should he not take? if someone is giving him because he is giving her money for her needs.?? if he is getting something fresh from outside why will he give or take from wife. so wife should tolerate or just walk out of marriage leaving the child with the father. this is dignity??

    Did you tried to tell the truth to his parents? You knew that his parents were otherwise good to you, there was no reason involving them in 498A problem. You yourself said that they were ignorant.

    - they did not believe me and also did not allow their son to live with me and child and filed cases with counter allegation.

    My wife herself liked to sleep and never respected my feelings as soon as I got married. I had controlled and never enjoyed. Even then, I had never ever flirted any other girl after marriage, but she continued to nag me for having a relationshi and later she herself found with some sms and maintaining another sim card without my knowledge later on, when enquired about the sms from her paramour.

    - did you not think about your wife's emotional and physical requiement (as soon as you got married)?? may be this is the cause.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  6. rekha_s
    Member

    What ever I have mentioned in 498a has sufficient proof & eye witness for conviction.
    I will help him to quash the 498a case if he is ready for settlement what I & child deserves.
    that is the only solution for him to escape punishment.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  7. sk_jha95
    Member

    This is what is known as BLACKMAILING. In ur previous postings u ve written that for child sake u can live with ur husband. If ur allegations are correct then no wife will try to return to her husband. U ve written that u can HELP ur husband if ur DEMANDS are fulfilled. This is shear BLACKMAILING, which even Supreme Court has termed as LEGAL TERRORISM.
    If ur husband gets punishment what u will get, only sadistic pleasure nothing else. U r talking about ur Child, what effect he will have if comes to know that his/her father is in jail (if ur assertions are correct which I doubt). Whether he will be happy to be known as son/daughter of Jailed person. For ur greed and Vindictive nature u will spoil ur child life and u will have to answer him/her in future, BE BETTER PREPARED FOR THAT

    Posted 6 years ago #
  8. rekha_s
    Member

    not blackmailing but compensation for rebuilding life. which he can afford easily. eg: if he has 4 houses. what is wrong if he is gives one house to his estranged wife. Is it not worth rather than spending amount on litigations. and giving to that girl to keep her mouth shut.

    it is not me returning to him..we both coming together for child .

    Going to jail means spoiling his career and loss of income/reputation. why did he not thought about it when I warned. he knew he was wrong. it was his choice. he should have thought about the child's life.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  9. Dr.Dsouza
    Member

    When you do not want your husband, why are you begging for his money ?
    498a will not justify your move, as you misused it.
    you should have filled related case for what he has done. and asked for Divorce instead blackmailing like this.
    Why dont you thought about Child when you filled 498a+ cases ?
    why this question only for him.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  10. dearverma
    Member

    u r so lucky rekha ji. u catch ur husband red handed, u file 498a. we catch our wife red handed, we get 498a.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  11. sc432114
    Member

    the name rekha means line....limit. but not in this forum. here we see a haggard beggar going by the same name. posting childishly like a know-all.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  12. hiarungupta
    Member

    rekhaji,
    One simple question, once the cases are settled would you like to marry again? I can give you the list of some general questions which the men asks usualy.

    Posted 6 years ago #

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