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  • Started 6 years ago by kondagai
  • Latest reply from sc432114
  1. rekha_s
    Member

    do you think you will happy and peaceful after separation?? why don't you go for judicial separation/Mutual consent separation if you nor your wife can amend themselves. talk to childrens also

    Posted 6 years ago #
  2. hiarungupta
    Member

    as per my experience, this type of behaviour(matched with grover & to some extent kondagi) donot change. This may be a mental problem called pschyzophrenia, check it. This may be controlled to some extent through proper medication from a psychiatrist. In my case, even after several years of medication, it was not under control. in my opinion, c needs some struggle in life, which may correct her to some extent. it's very difficult to come out of a relationship. I don't think u should even think of it unless unavoidable.
    But once decided, u should be proactive in ur actions.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  3. rekha_s
    Member

    you said she perfectly ok at work means she is not ok with the situation in your house. she does not seem to have mental problem. you cannot change one's behavioural pattern in a day.. sometimes parting for short duration helps to understand the depth of relation. may be it can bring two of you more closer than ever. clear communication will help to improve relation. you tell her about your desire to leave and reasons.? wait for her reactions? and decide. but if you desert your wife and childrens without communicating you will surely land up in problem.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  4. hiarungupta
    Member

    now the question arises why he should land up in problems. He's not demanded dowary.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  5. rekha_s
    Member

    in every way..emotional as well.. remember there are many legal provision to safeguards womens interest (wellbeing). dowry is one aspect.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  6. hiarungupta
    Member

    it means u accept that 498a may be misused.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  7. rekha_s
    Member

    498A. is also for subjecting woman to cruelty by husband or relative of Husband. she will file only when it is possible to prove such cruelty in court.investigation and trial will be carried out. unless convicted why should anyone fear. guilty will be punished.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  8. dearverma
    Member

    "you said she perfectly ok at work means she is not ok with the situation in your house."

    bulls eye sherlock holmes. this proves that the guy is an absolute devil of man. an evil fellow. a saddistic human being whose only motive of existence seems to be torturing his wife and making her his slave.
    gr8 u've cracked the case. well done rekha ji.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  9. rekha_s
    Member

    this is your assumption and your personal thoughts.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  10. dearverma
    Member

    those r not my assumptions. instead of saying that these type of women are impossible to please u r saying that fault was with the situation in house (indirectly his fault)
    so by same logic if ur husband was ok with others and not ok with u, that means it was ur fault???

    i have seen many gullible men falling pray to ur (ill) advices here.

    "she will file only when it is possible to prove such cruelty in court.investigation and trial will be carried out."
    what trial what investigation in 498A. which country r u living in? India?
    yes ultimately nobody gets convicted but have u faced initial few months. old women (our mothers) have to go in hiding, run from one place to another till AB is secured. for husband's 7-10 days jails is sureshot. tihar jail is full of undertrial old women in such cases who do not have money to secure bail. have u seen condition in indian jails. leave alone 7 days, u'll cry in 7 hrs. just pray no man in ur family, ur brother, son gets this piece of BS. saying is easy that u'll get convicted only if guilty. first 3-4 months are **** while wife is busy fighting and getting maintenance.

    hopefully that day will come soon when false 498A will initiate trial on wife and that day is not far. as the old saying goes u can fool some people all the time, u can fool all people some of the time, but u cannot fool all people all the time.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  11. rekha_s
    Member

    future women will be more alert and will keep collecting evidence and eyewitness to prove geniune 498a cases. injustice should not be done to any human being.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  12. dearverma
    Member

    genuine 498a cases will keep on suffering due to misdooings of false 498a. so so many false 498a whenever a genuine one reaches judge his first impression is that its a false one.

    Posted 6 years ago #

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