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the "evil wife & DIL"'s story!

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  • Started 6 years ago by humanbeing
  • Latest reply from Dr.Dsouza
  1. humanbeing
    Member

    And Mr. SK Jha...how could you baselessly say that my parents wanted to get rid of me...would you like if I say it seems your wife wants to run away with your neighbour....baseless assumptions lagaane hain then ofcours I can compete...better not get dirty!!

    Posted 6 years ago #
  2. sk_jha95
    Member

    I am writing with my real name, u r hiding with some imaginary name. when u feel that u r wrong then only u hide urself. My contention is 2 ways legal and society. It seems u don’t care about society. It is clear from ur postings that U needed ur husband only for monetary sake. If ur in-laws r so bad why u or ur parents have not investigated earlier so that u r happily married?
    Madam ji forget it that u will get maintenance. If I was in ur husband’s position I would have fight till Supreme Court for atleast 10 years rather than giving money to u. There r ruling that NO Maintenance to be given to capable and educated women.
    On my personal front I wish my wife to run away with some one so that I am free. She is not with me for last 4 yrs to take care of her parents, wants me to stay with them. I am taking care of her with out any Court Order. I have 4 cases on me still I daily talk to her. I have No kid but looking after 4 kids of orphanage aged between 6-12 yrs.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  3. humanbeing
    Member

    I am hiding behind an imaginary name because its my judgment and prerogative to do so.Call it whatever you want...:-P !!

    yes..my parents did not investigate earlier.....ab mar jaayein kyaa? justice naa lein??

    yes...I need financial protection (and I also needed a baby, but thats not important in the discussion here) from my husband....nahi leni chaahiye kyaa........financial protection nahi hai....fairness nahi hai...parents ki aur meri respect nahi hai.....sharing of chores nahi hai .........maine marriage kya saath film dekhne ke liye kari thhi...?YES I wanted to be an equal partner......and I have no regrets or qualms accepting that finances are a MAJOR issue..like it or hate it..hai to hai..!!

    I am glad you are not in my husband's position.....if you would have fought till supreme court....so would I have...!!

    You can divorce your wife if you hate her so much!!..Why torture yourself and her with burden of an unwanted relation?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  4. humanbeing
    Member

    And by the way why do men have so much problem with women wanting money??
    When we ask your role in marriage....you justify everything by saying you bring money......the ONLY contribution you intend to do- you do not want to share that also with women?? Ye kahaan kaa justice hai.....tum paise bhee nahi doge to aur kyaa doge shaadi mei????

    You want a woman's labor,services, sacrifice, everything and obviously if your wife earns she cannot send all her money to her parents......!!......but when it comes to you, you want to give ONLY money..and you do not want to give even that...so you want to give NOTHING to women and only take stuff from her....??

    Why Why Why should women not even ask for money, if thats ALL you bring to a marriage??

    Posted 6 years ago #
  5. humanbeing
    Member

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    Posted 6 years ago #
  6. sk_jha95
    Member

    My sincere advice ( u accept it or not) if u don’t like ur husband and his parents then go for divorce. Life will pass, without u or ur husband gaining anything out of legal proceedings. Must ve seen one person getting divorce at the age of 80yrs in media. U and ur husband will spend all ur energy n time fighting in courts. Every one has a right to protect himself and retaliate n if u file a case ur husband can also file counter cases on u, so be prepared for that.
    All lawyers say that they have solid case and clients fight based on this optimism, reality is far from that. Ur husband can also file several cases on u and ur family members.
    I can take care of my personal problems. Any way thanks for advice

    Posted 6 years ago #
  7. humanbeing
    Member

    I have different case..I come from a family of lawyers. But I do feel bad for him coz he doesnt have the same benefit. Anyways....I intend to take divorce...I know it might sound strange from a feminist like me...but I do love my husband....but yeah my love is not my weakness....whatever people think I feel I deserve maintenance....and I am not asking for maintenance to take advantage of him...its because I feel lot of my rights have been quashed....why should I let go of the only right I have......when I have been denied the rest of them, and if it can help me go places...I am a hard working woman...but I do want a great career to make up for my loss of dreams and my personal life....and my previous career opportunities....

    Thats my POV....peace :-) !!

    Posted 6 years ago #
  8. sk_jha95
    Member

    Same things from womens also. Why they treat husband as free ATM m/c. Why they r after husband's money only? Any way have u ever thought what husband wants from u? He also wants peaceful life, a family where he can feel happy and contented.

    Posted 6 years ago #
  9. humanbeing
    Member

    women are after husbands money only because husbands dont do anything else apart from giving money!!

    ...you want the woman to serve you....if she earns, it should stay in your family only..?..but you share only money with her....to utnaa to share karo??

    How come men think women are machines who will give them everything....?? What is men's contribution if not money??

    What do men want?? They dont want to be ATM machines...but their excuse for giving NOTHING to a relation is that they bring money??

    Posted 6 years ago #
  10. humanbeing
    Member

    Men are ATMs because thats what they have made themselves to be....and now they dont want to be even that?? So practically they want to give nothing, but only receive....receive..and receive....how does their self respect allow them?

    Posted 6 years ago #
  11. humanbeing
    Member

    And to answer your question, whether I have thought what he wants from me ...YES ..I have not just thought ....I have heard LOUD and CLEAR what all my husband wants....housework, outside work, sacrifice, humility, perfection, being nice, etc etc....believe me the list is long..very loooong.....what I have NOT been informed yet...is WHAT I WILL GET in return of sooo much!!

    Posted 6 years ago #
  12. maha2us
    Member

    Sister Humanbeing

    Note a fact that this forum is not anti-woman. But most of us in this forum are those persons who are harassed by their wives with false cases in which they are helping each other. The help is also for the sisters and the mothers of those husbands who are also charged as criminals. As far your case, you have to check whether you have really taken care of your interests when you got married. if really your career were important to you, why did you sacrifice your career to get married? In this world, you can't expect anybody to provide something for you which you like, when you can provide that for yourself. Just telling repeatedly that you have sacrificed something, does not make you a loving person. The first thing we need to learn is to love ourselves and that is the love we radiate towards others. When you got married, you must have chosen a husband with whom you wouldn't have to compromise your career. Even now it is not too late for you. Instead of trying to blame your husband or anybody repeatedly why not try to focus on how you can do justice to your capabilities? That way you would be loving to yourself. I learn in a hard way that I only can be with my feelings. Same is the case with you. Arguing is not going to help you as everyone of us have our own problems to solve. Cheers and Good Luck to you,

    Posted 6 years ago #

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