Neelam, why do you want to beg. I thought women are self-sufficient. You should have left your in laws and gone to your maternal house as soon as they allegedly started making things uncomfortable for you! You could have started earning if you were capable and self-respecting.
Is my case strong against my greedy in laws?(22 posts)
You are saying that people here are not legal professional... Who claimed to be legal professional anyway, and are we charging you for this advise? And your language makes it clear that infact you are a legal professional, you can explore law and legal options which you are doing anyway ... You definitely don't need advise of novice people like us .....
Neelam has said "If you have legal knowledge, then only answer this query" .... Ideally in her opinion we do not have legal knowledge so its better we stop this thread here !!!!!!!!!
I have made it clear if you have no idea about the case and have no legal knowledge then do not respond like a passer by .This is not ORKUT.Atleast I am not here to get my time wasted.
Anyone else - if you were a victim where you have got your hands burnt because of DV act /Dowry act do not be biased to the extent that you start generalising things in all such cases .And also do not start suggesting attainment of woman's economic independence in each and every case because -
First of all it is not possible for every woman to do so because of unemployment problem /lack of professional skills and yes most importantly may be one day the woman will start doing so but till then she has children to take care of as well a self needs to survive.Thirdly the woman must bring the case to court so that anyone who does injustice must get fearful of court and compensate the aggrieved party .
And yes maintenance applies even if you are an unemployed man and your wife tortures you being employed and still not supporting you.And I 'll certainly agree with such a man fighting for the same cause.
Neelam you said,
"And yes maintenance applies even if you are an unemployed man and your wife tortures you being employed and still not supporting you."Do you think a women with this kind of mentality is supposed to be called as a wife...A women has no right to be called a wife until she supports her husband if he is in problem.Marriage is not just like having Saat phere around the fire and having Sex.. marriage is an institution of trust,compromise,love,passion,relationship,sacrifice etc... I think you need to take lessons how to be a perfect wife
Read this guide to be a near to perfect wife :
1. )Believe in him. Your husband needs to know that if he fails to succeed at something or makes a mistake, you'll still be right there. Your emotional support gives him confidence.
2 )Accept who he is. No one is flawless, and though there may be some things you'd like to change about him, he is who he is. He needs to feel loved by you for who and what he is, not what he could be changed into.
3 )Give him guy time. Just as women like to bond with shopping, phone conversations or other quality time, men need time to communicate and spend time with male friends. It can be a stress reliever and a time for them to kick back with friends.
4 )Communicate gently. This doesn't mean you have to be subtle or indirect when talking with your husband, just be aware of your tone in an argumentive state that could be described by him as nagging.
5 )Encourage him. If your husband has a dream or something you know he would absolutely love to do but needs a little nudge, give him a little push and boost of confidence. He'll see your support but also take your encouragement as reinforcement of your desire for him to be happy.
6) Be direct and to the point. Men can sometimes get lost in too much detail, and aren't the best at mind-reading. If you want or need something, tell him--don't expect him to know what's on your mind.
1."And yes maintenance applies even if you are an unemployed man and your wife tortures you being employed and still not supporting you."
That means the case where your wife is employed and you need maintenance.
2.And this is not my case.I am discussing on someones behalf.So stop preaching me.I have more knowledge of Hindu philosophy than you .Get a warm up on orkut as a beginner.
3.Your wife was not adamant like me but you.I am open to truth.But you are **** bent on teaching and preaching woman those ideals of marriage that need man also to be equally idealistic .It is a 50-50 demand to be fulfilled by partners ,not 90 -10 as people like you want it to be with 90 to be done on part of woman.That is why even woman are losing their path while copying you guys while dealing with you.Your offensive Ego made them follow the same path of egoism as human always copies what makes him/ her get power though it "ruined" family as an institution.
4.And are you mad that you are not able to understand that the man knowingly did all this just to get money from inlaws,not spending money for family responsibilities, abandoned her at her mothers home for 4.5 years out of 6 years of marriage .You have not even read the details of the case and kept on responding like a fool.Har jagah apni wife hi nazar ati hai kya?Agar sachmuch vo galat hai toh jakar lado uskey khilaf naki virtual world mei unko sikhao jo khud dusron ke anyay ka shikar hain.
1.what does this red flame before topic of this post mean?
2.why have you put the rules to be followed before posting in such small font size w/o highlight if they are so significant?You really think anyone can notice it?
3.why have you not put the option of leaving this group visible as a link or was I unable to find it?
4.how much time will it take to get my membership to this forum deleted?
Sorry for delay in replying your comments....
Now my comments on that :
1)Pls try to accept that you are not innocent,i have getting enormous calls daily from many innocent victims because they married a girls who is having an uncultured background/mentality (what you are depicting in your posts)
2)If it is not your case then how come you have written on your very first post " I got married in January 2005.It was an arranged marriage." So the bottomline is either you are lying now or you lied in your first post.
3)You have pointed some personal comments on me which again shows your mindset and your behaviour.
4)I am very sorry to hear that your husband abandoned you for 4.5 years out of 6 years of marriage,believe me he is courageous enough to surpass those 1.5 years which he spent with you.Believe me no husband wants to live without his wife but the when he gets no respect/love/affection/support from his wife then it's better to live without her.
And by the way, Good bye and you rest assured we will not miss you......
I happened to see the views on this forum....and its sad....you are definitely a victim Neelam. Yes you deserve maintenance, and having come from a legal background...asking 5 lakh rupees from your parents home for "supporting" your husband qualifies as a dowry demand. Its disgusting the way people are pointing out things. I am sorry for your broken marriage...but its great that you have decided to walk out of it. They HAVE to pay you maintenance....it is your right...and no one in this forum or anywhere can stop you from receiving your rights...please do not get demoralized.
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