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Regarding Divorce for my Cousin.

(27 posts)
  1. 498A_Crusader
    Administrator

    She is not going out or coming with you to bangalore thats not her husband fault.
    tell her, if she want to spend rest of her life misrable as you wrote let her be there.

    OR;
    ask her to report her Problem to women cell, hopefully they will solve her Problems, if any if they find, their service should be FREE.
    and im telling again, before getting maintenance from husband she has rights in her Fathers Property, tell her to get that 1st
    if Women cell find out she is really harassed then by default she will get alimony and Divorce.

    You can file online complaint with NCW http://ncw.nic.in/ [ Do not give false complaints, it will bounce back and endup paying instead paid ]

    PS:none of the posts deleted read - READ BEFORE YOU POST on main page.

    Posted 7 years ago #
  2. 498A_Crusader
    Administrator

    She is not going out or coming with you to bangalore thats not her husband fault.
    tell her, if she want to spend rest of her life misrable as you wrote let her be there.

    OR;
    ask her to report her Problem to women cell, hopefully they will solve her Problems, if any if they find, their service should be FREE.
    and im telling again, before getting maintenance from husband she has rights in her Fathers Property, tell her to get that 1st
    if Women cell find out she is really harassed then by default she will get alimony and Divorce.

    You can file online complaint with NCW http://ncw.nic.in/ [ Do not give false complaints, it will bounce back and endup paying instead paid ]

    PS:none of the posts deleted read - READ BEFORE YOU POST on main page.

    Posted 7 years ago #
  3. Tanua
    Member

    Hi Administrator,

    Thxx for your kind words in the last post... But I would say don't try to link anything which is not even linkable.
    Just read once again what I said & try to understand it in simple English.

    Whatever my cousin told me about his behavior with her, from that I wrote:

    "According to me(NOTE), thr may be 2 reasons for that.

    1. He is having an Extra Marital affair
    2. He is a G'ay.

    In 1st case We can't find out & as her parents & bro is also not supportive we can't go ahead in any matter(Like hiring a detective or something)...
    In 2nd case He is not even ready to show to any Psychiatrist or a Sexologist to find out(whether he is having a sexual problem or an orientation problem)."

    Whatever I suspect is, If he is having an EMA then anyhow he is fulfilling his Sexual desires from that second lady & so not ready to give my cousin all the rights of a Wife as he does not feel anything for her.. And in that case a simple lie that 'he does not know how to use a condom' is a very small thing for him..

    If this EMA case is true then anyhow he intentionally didn't use any protection giving that absurd reply to make her pregnant in the first time so that everyone would not force him regarding child or wife... In that Case it is very much possible that He is pretending to be like that & telling all this crap that he thinks "If anyone is friendly to his Wife or keeping his wife happy He is just Hurting his Parents.." Or "If he does Sex with his wife His mother would be angry at him or get Hurt."

    Or Second case is If he is really a G'ay then he is simply not interested in a lady & so he does not show any interest in her..

    The simple thing which I wanted to say is A guy who is living like that from past 8 yrs is not a simple guy at all to understand.. I just wanted to know some way to help her when she does not even have money to go to a Lawyer...

    Whatever you said in last post is very much appreciable as it may help us to proceed further...

    Thxx a lot...

    Posted 7 years ago #
  4. Crusader
    Member

    Sweta;
    No one is Againt you or against your cousin, we are just expressing our views as what we think right.
    you should not brand anyone G`AY or having extra marital Affairs unless you have solid proofs.
    Now tell me, your cousin want DIVORCE or her Problem solved and wanted to be with Husband happily.

    Posted 7 years ago #
  5. Tanua
    Member

    Hi Administrator,

    First of all plz tell me frm whr did you got to know my name...
    Actually My Nickname is Tanuja & I was trying to keep the username Tanuja only but somehow it became Tanua..

    Khair,

    I just came home from office & was just trying to talk to my Cousin but she is not right now picking up the call so may be I'll talk to her in the night if she is free(As her daughter's exams are going on so she had to sit with her for studies.)

    I will tell her all this talks & ask her what does she finally wants.
    As far as she told me up-til now She wants a Divorce as it is mentally disturbing her a lot. & eventually she fears that She will go mad or commit suicide in the due course of time & then what will happen to her daughter after her.

    About her Husband, I am not branding him something but I am just concerned about the suspicious activities which she told me he does everytime..

    Sometimes when she wakes up in the morning at 4-5 she sees her husband not in the home & it is his habit that he is not at home without telling anyone 4 days a week...
    He goes out of town frequently & whenever he goes he colors his hair & do things like that which makes her feel like he is hiding something.(This is also an example so don't take it in a literal meaning)

    Leave all these things, Even if anything is the case, then too she can live like that If He agrees to pay attention towards him & spends atleast half an hour a day quality time with her. She says If he really cares for her then at least he can talk to her while having food or tea or breakfast...

    But He is just mentally harassing her day by day & She can't live like that for ever...

    Her father & bro are giving her wrong info about the Laws related to Divorce & child custody which are again acting as a depressing agent for her mind..

    And now I am really very much concerned bcoz on Saturday she talked to me & cried a lot saying that she is feeling a lot like committing Suicide & If anything happened to her who will take responsibility of her child.

    Plz don't take any of my words wrong this time.. But I am just asking to help a Genuine innocent lady who is my Cousin.

    I know today laws are made to harass men and are biased towards Women welfare even if the woman is wrong... But this has just made the situation more worse for those Women who are being harassed by thr In-laws & husband... Those who are innocent face the wrath of the society & people think that they are just trying to take the advantage of the Judicial system which is biased. In a case of an Innocent lady No one listens to what she wants to say but in a case of a dominating women she never allows anyone to go against her.

    So the innocent is now also getting harassed & the women who are Culprits are leading the Cases as ever...

    Thr are much more things which right now also are unsaid here.. I can tell you each and everything which I know.. But anywhr I couldn't find her husband behaving Normal with her or her parents...

    I request you to understand everything & then say anything.

    Posted 7 years ago #
  6. MyNation
    Member

    There are no laws Biased towards women, all are in her favor. If some judgments go against women then because of that judge experience that he found many modern women misuses womencentric laws.
    Eg: dowry Law (IPC 498A, Domectic Violence law etc ) so do not blame men for that, its your own kind use and misuse those laws.

    If she made her mind to go for Divorce, then she has to ready to face the world alone.
    Ask her to report her harassment to women cell, Rest assured.

    Posted 7 years ago #
  7. Tanua
    Member

    My Nation,

    I think you have some problem in understanding or spoken English...

    Meaning of the word 'Biased' is "Favoring one person or side over another"
    Here 'Laws Biased towards Women' means "Laws are favoring Women over Men"...

    First of all clear your English Language meanings & then give any statement as I didn't get the meaning of what you wanted to say in your post...

    Posted 7 years ago #
  8. cook
    Member

    L & T infotech Bangalore
    HKBK College

    Posted 7 years ago #
  9. Tanua
    Member

    Hi Admin,

    I had a talk with my cousin last night & She told me that her mother talked to her father regarding the issue..
    Her Mother told her father that right now He is not counting the issue with its seriousness without seeing the pros & cons in the future. But this issue is very very big & if thr daughter did something wrong in the course of the time, then they would only regret thr negligence towards her..

    Yesterday evening her father talked to her regarding every problem that she is facing with her In-laws & husband.. He said that He will once again talk to her husband regarding the issue to see whether he is interested in the married life or not interested at all... If he is ready to talk then he will ask him to mend his wrong doings towards her...

    He said that He will have a pure unbiased talk with him & his Father that what is his real problem related to marital things.. If her Father gets a satisfied reply from thr side then he would ask them to help them solve the issue but If not he will ask them to give a divorce..

    Regarding Money his father now understood that this matter is very serious so he is now ready to help her in any circumstance as she has already suffered 8 yrs without saying a word. About maintanence, Her father said a clear 'NO' bcoz he is self sufficient to take care of her daughter & her Grand-daughter without any one's help.

    I just thought to tell this info here so as all can get a idea what is going on right now.

    NOTE: One more thing I wanted to say, If anyone has any problem in understanding any word in English then plz tell me, I will translate every post of mine in Hindi so that I may not get any absurd replies like the last one.

    Posted 7 years ago #
  10. Tanua
    Member

    Hi Cook,

    Will you plz tell me what do you want to say in your post... I didn't get a word of that...

    What is the meaning of your post.
    "L & T infotech Bangalore
    HKBK College "

    Posted 7 years ago #
  11. ADMIN
    Key Master

    Good Move;
    both parties should sit together and discuss problem and sort it out. along with unbiased 3rd party who knows both families. do not include women cell or any women organisations, they will ruin all your efforts to sort out this problem.
    and she is the one to decide Continue or Divorce.

    498A CRUSADER
    MYNATION.NET
    SUPARI.ORG
    Posted 7 years ago #
  12. Tanua
    Member

    Admin,

    Yes you are right. She is the one to decide.. & I am happy that her father understood the seriousness of the issue...

    Until now he was taking it as a simple domestic or couple fight... But when her mother told him the real scenario which is going on, he was convinced that without a sitting talk between both the Families they will not do any good to thr daughter... Earlier also they had talks 4-5 times but then the problem was not solved as no one ever thought of separation or Divorce..

    One more thing, About an unbiased 3rd party, The in-laws including the husband don't want any 3rd person to interfere or even sit with them in any talk as they don't like talking in front of any other person.... So First her father wants to talk calmly with them. If they become unmanageable then they will surely ask someone who is unbiased to sit with them for the talk...

    I just want to see her happy So I hope everything goes smooth...

    Posted 7 years ago #

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