I was married on 20th Oct 2007. After marriage, my wife only lived with me for 6 months and remained in her parent's home from April2007 to September 2009 on these pretexts:
1. Pregnancy: after 6 months of marriage. She said she would feel comfortable sharing her problems only with her own mother rather than mine.
2. Weakness: After child birth she said she was weak and wanted to recuperate. This she saaid after the stipulated 3 months as per our custom.
3. PhD: She wanted to complete her studies. Ironically, she did not complete her thesis at all which I ended up completing for her at the last moment.
On various occassions, upon my strict insistence, she did come and stay three times: 15 days, 15 days and 20 days. During her stay at her parent's home, I bear all her expenses by sending her money to the tune of 3 Lakhs over one year and then also all expenses of my child. I also made an FD of 2 Lakhs in my wife's name in this period.
Once the third pretext was gone, her mother and mausi visited our home on 13-Sep-2009 under pressure from me and alleged that I have illicit relationships with some other girl. I told them undwer oath of our religious scriptures and upon my child, that it was a falsehood. I asked them to clear all their doubts and seek answers to anything that might have in mind. They told me they believe me and agreed that everything is now clear.
My wife returned on 15-Sep-2009 and immediately we had tensions. She found fault with everyone in my home. She had joined a job and had put my child in a creche before coming to my home without my consent. I opposed those two decisions on grounds that my child was young (only 8 months old) and needed mother's care. We had several verbal arguments. During one such argument on 4-Oct-2009, in response to her very abusing verbal stament towards me, I involuntarily slapped her for the first time during our marriage. I wanted to talk to her to explain myself, but she locked herself in room, called her relatives who came hurling abuses and shouting and while we watched, they took my child, some necessary documents, and my wife along with them.
After that I tried to reconcile but they foiled all my efforts. They kept changing their stand. They asked me to sign apology, then they asked me to separate from my parents, then they wanted apology from my parents. They went to an NGO "Seva Mandir" which works for women and wanted to lodge an FIR but they were restrained by that NGO. The NGO has sent me letters and I have met them on 20-Nov-2009. They showed sympathy with my cause. However, I am asked to reconcile and meet the demands my wife is putting up. I am not sure what to do. I have been thoroughly harassed and my reputation has been mauled by systematic rumour mongering. They came to my home with my wife and child on 18-Nov-2009 and my wife abused my parents calling them names and saying very bad words.
I am concerned about my child and love him too much. However I am not allowed to assert my rights. My parents can't see him. My wife maintains that she does not want to terminate marriage.
Please tell me what recourse I can take to recover my child and if possible save my marriage (which I only want to do to save my child's future). Also please tell me what are my (Father's) rights in this scenario.